What were you taught when you were a child?
Saturday, January 31st, 2009“The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.”
Proverbs 11:3
Okay, I have to admit, I love the book of Proverbs.
Traditionally, it was written by King Solomon, noted for his wisdom. The book of Proverbs is mostly a list of rather random statements like the one above, with little to no connection between them. But what they are are statements, suggestions, rules, and observations about the way of the world, and how the faithful are to live.
I love this book because I’m such a big fan of this style of writing, where each statement is called an aphorism. Many philosophers have taken this style, which is always intriguing to me. The aphorism doesn’t tell you everything. It’s not a long explanation for why to do such-and-such, or why to not act in one way or another. The aphorism simply states what the author wants to say, and leaves the details up to your own imagination and your own experimentation.
And so it is with this Proverb. We are taught that integrity is the guide of upright people, but duplicity will be the downfall of those who fall into that trap.
Honestly, this statement reminds me a lot of one of my favorite books, Friedrich Nietzsche’s Human, All Too Human. This book, in the aphoristic format just like the book of Proverbs, speaks about what it means to be a human being in this world. It is an interesting book, written as a social, religious, and philosophical critique by the son of a Lutheran pastor, and I first read it in college, and have read it at least once a year ever since.
Reading this aphorism reminds me also of the twelve points of the Boy Scout Law, which amazingly I still remember (A scout is trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean, and reverent.) Honest may not be among those twelve adjectives I had to memorize so long ago, but the intention is there.
Honesty and integrity were drilled into me ever since I can remember, from my parents, my scout masters, my teachers at school, and my pastors. And I know some of you might be wondering if those things are still being taught. After all, we keep hearing about all the bad things going on in our world, it’s not surprise that we wonder whether anyone still has any integrity.
But I am sure that most of our children are still learning this important lesson, and we are still teaching this to our children. We are just teaching this in a time of dramatic change for all of us, where privacy has become more important than integrity.
After all, integrity is exemplified best by what you do when no one is watching. A lot of times, what we teach our children is akin to the “Do what I say, not what I do” cliche, and then our children fail to learn integrity. What they learn is that it’s okay to do whatever they want as long as they don’t get caught.
Getting caught, however, is the least of our problems when we live a life of duplicity. The problems we face are to our hearts, our minds, and our souls, and what kind of monster living that kind of life turns us into. If we have integrity, we will never have to tell our children to “Do what I say, not what I do.” We may never be perfect, but we will admit that to our children. We will not try to defend our trespasses, or try to excuse them. A person with integrity takes the blame, asks for forgiveness, and receives that forgiveness with an open heart.
I just realized I’ve gone on for quite a bit about teaching children. Hmm, I guess we see what’s been on my mind lately. But the fact remains that our children will not learn faithful living from anywhere else but us. If we do not teach them, like Solomon who wrote this whole book of Proverbs as instructions, then they will not learn to be faithful adults, and will not teach their future children.
It has been said that Christianity is always one generation away from extinction. And that is, at least, partially true. One generation must always pass on the teachings of the faithful to the next generations. And we hold that mission as a sacred, God-given trust to pass on the Christian heritage, and specifically our Lutheran heritage, on to our young, so that they may grow older recognizing all the beauty and wonder that God has given us, and are upright citizens of both the Right- and the Left-Hand Kingdoms.
So, when the next opportunity arises to teach Sunday School, help with a youth group, or teach your own children, take the chance! Do your best! Be upright, have integrity, and teach our young to love the Lord with all their hearts, and to love their neighbors as themselves. Taking that opportunity now will shape the future of this world more than anything else you could do. Reach out and take it - God has given you all you need!